How to live the PERFECT LIFE

Hello there, welcome to my blog once more, I do appreciate your time. My first post was going to be on something related to my hair regimen until I went through my Instagram timeline and I saw the picture of a lady with stretch marks On her hip and the lady who posted it said that it reminded her of how she used to look for the perfect body, wished to be the "ideal woman" until she got over it. I was then faced with answering the question "what constitutes perfection?" Some feel it's being pretty with the right amount of flesh in all the areas of their body hence the diss between the "born thick" and "naturally skinny"; many people in a bid to slim down consume some things that are detrimental to their health and literally starve themselves.

I was with a guy one day and I stopped an acquaintance to greet her.  when she turned to greet him, he said "you're the girl who makes noise in church", it's kind of annoying, you should stop it. I was infuriated at his comment and I said to him, "if she weren't a noisemaker, how would you have known her, if she didn't talk in church, would you have recognised her? It is her personality and you cannot just walk up to her to make her feel bad because you do not like her personality." The lady felt bad and she kept quiet. 

so, the real issue is, if you feel you're imperfect and your goal is to be like the next person who looks just perfect, what then differentiates you from others? You, your stature, your strengths and your flaws make up your personality. 

life is about interdependence and if we all are the same, have the same flaws and the same strengths, how then would we be able to move to the next level? I'm not advocating for you not to make an attempt at improving yourself, in fact, I believe strongly that we should constantly work on improving ourselves and even discipline ourselves but, until you embrace your flaws, your self esteem will continue to be shattered. 

My dear, self love is essential in this life until you embrace your flaws, you cannot find out the healthy way to go about Them.

I hope this was helpful. Do drop your comments, contributions and questions as I would really love to hear from you.

Cheers, 

Dee.

P.s: the you in you is the you that makes the you that you are.